I was intrigued the first time that I heard Tony Robbins say the quote, “success without fulfillment is the greatest failure.” I knew it was true, because although receiving my doctoral degree with honors was a great success, it brought no fulfillment. I woke up the next morning and thought to myself, “I worked all…
Your fulfillment in life … your relationships, your project success, your career success, your business success, your financial success; ALL of your success … is TOTALLY predictable! No, I’m not a fortuneteller, and I certainly do not have a crystal ball. But neither is necessary to assess your destination, your fulfillment, and your success (or…
Getting our needs met. Yes … it’s the one thing that can put us in danger of violating our values, give up our goals, and sacrifice our dreams. WOW! If you had any psychology courses at all, you will remember Abraham Maslow’s “hierarchy of needs.” I was absolutely blown away by the concepts, because it…
A funk. Don’t look at me like you don’t know what a funk is. We all have them. And they are always dysfunktional! I define a funk as that place we go when we have been hurt, upset, or disappointed. We go to that place, and we nurse our wounds, rehearse the wrongs done to…
Shame. It can be a gift, and it can be a curse. Unfortunately, all too many of us experience the curse and miss the gift. Particularly in relationships. Let me start by separating guilt and shame. There’s been much research and much said about both, and their relationship to one another. The fundamental difference is…
The first time I heard the phrase, “you are as sick as your secrets” I wondered if they were speaking of being mentally/emotionally sick? Or physically sick? It turns out that research shows both are true. We now have years of research showing that the feeling of “safety” (both physically and emotionally) is one of…
This week, I am doing a Master Class series called: “The Fail-Proof Strategy for Coaching Yourself (& Others) to Extraordinary: In Your Life, Your Business, Your Relationships & Your Finances!” Click here if you’re not yet registered and would like to join us for this free Master Class. Think you are not suited to take…
I remember all too well what I call “the dark night of my soul.” Going through something that no one should ever have to experience. I’m guessing it’s probably happened to you, too. The particular day I learned some excruciating news, I was in Walmart. I could not catch my breath. My body was trembling…
“I am determined … to be invincible! Until he has finished his purpose in me.” I was working my way through graduate school when I first heard this song. The song was one of the most powerful I had ever heard. And when I had the privilege of singing backup on this song with the…
Last week, I spoke at a conference called “Becoming Fearless.” I have spoken at this conference for many years, and about six months in advance they always send me the title of what they want my talk to be about. This year it was “How to Overcome Fear.” My first words when I stepped up to the…