What If This Is All There Is?(It Could Be If You Fail to Resurrect Your Champion!)
“You actually think (a glance away/slight eye roll) that because I’m sick of my life, sick of my job, sick of myself…That somehow YOU believe that means there’s a Champion in me? You’ve got to be kidding me!” I just nodded. He was on a roll (like a steamroller) so I let him talk. “I’m […]
Five Things…The Champion In Us All Have In Common
“What if we resurrect the Champion in me and I don’t like her? I mean, I do believe that I was meant to do more…and be more. I mean, like… well…what if she’s a pain in the *ss?” I had to chuckle because I understood more than I wish I did! First, I went over […]
You Simply MUST Believe There Is A Champion in You!
“I’m alcoholic, but I like to say I just drink a little. I don’t know that there’s anything left in me worth spending time or energy on. I know you say there’s a Champion inside of everyone. But maybe the ‘Champion Fairy’ missed me. Or maybe I destroyed it with my alcohol abuse.” I smiled […]
What Unresolved Trauma Does to Relationships
“Our marriage is barely hanging on by a thread. I saw a counselor who suggested that I find a good moment and share my feelings succinctly. Not just the things that bothered me, but how much I missed him and the fun we used to have… I waited and waited for the right moment … […]
Why I Am So Passionate about Those with Unresolved Trauma
“Be honest … Do you ever feel like your dedication and mission to love people with unresolved trauma is akin to loving the unlovable?“ I was stunned by the question, and I thought for sure he would edit my almost indignant response out of the broadcast. When I watched the recording, I realize the look […]
THINGS YOU WILL WISH YOU HAD DONE SOONER THAN LATER ON YOUR JOURNEY HEALING FROM TRAUMA
The host reacted to what he called “the urgent desperation” in my voice as I shared the words: “Just get started!” He said, “The urgent desperation in your voice sounds almost like you are pleading out an invitation.” Recently, I was on a broadcast speaking about trauma recovery. The host asked me a tough, but […]
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU NEED EXTRA HELP IN TRAUMA RECOVERY
“I am working faithfully in the trauma recovery workbook that you recommended to my wife for me. But for the life of me … I cannot stop going back to the moment of those tires screeching.” I leaned toward him and nodded as he dropped his head into his hands. I whispered gently, “I am […]
SUPPORTING SOMEONE YOU LOVE THROUGH TRAUMA RECOVERY
“Oh my God! Now I have a whole new problem!” “After all the hard work you helped me do to get him into his trauma recovery, I bet you thought you wouldn’t be hearing from me.” “I am so grateful that he is doing the work to heal from his trauma after years of denial, […]
WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOUR PARTNER/SPOUSE HAS UNRESOLVED TRAUMA & HOW YOU CAN HELP
“I just feel like life, hope and energy have been sucked right out of me. He has no empathy, refuses to do things that are kind and loving, and says such mean things.” “I’m having physical side effects from the stress, and I cry myself to sleep almost every night. I’m lonely. I’m hurt. I’m […]
Breaking Free From A Trauma Bond
“There’s something terribly wrong with me. I’ve spent thousands of dollars in therapy healing from the trauma. But I keep going back for more. It’s like this vacuum that sucks me back, and I can’t seem to stop it. “I know he’s an alcoholic. I know he lies to me. I know there was verbal […]