“There’s just so much sewage under our bridge, I think you’ll agree this marriage is dead!” He had read my blog the week before: “Don’t Murder Your Marriage or Wreck Your Relationships.” And in that context, his next sentence will make sense: “I may have murdered it or wrecked it myself. But it sure seems…
“What are the most frequent ways you see people murder their marriages?“ The host of the broadcast took me by surprise with that poignant question. It was like a real blow to my gut. I took a deep breath and responded with: “WOW! What a loaded question!“ He responded wisely by remarking, “I don’t know…
“You really can’t go back after all we’ve learned and experienced, can you?” These were the words spoken to me just this week after the graduation as a group of stellar Master Life Coaching Institute class of coaches. I just nodded and smiled lovingly. As he smiled and walked away, he looked over his shoulder…
“So I think I understand what you’re saying about this Owner’s Manual stuff. And if you can just tell me about three good reasons I should spend my time and energy doing it, maybe I will!“ I could see by the way he had thrown his nose up in the air in narcissistic style, by…
“I’ve snatched so many pages out of my Owner’s Manual that I don’t even know who I am anymore!“ Because her Owner’s Manual had so many self-defeating, disempowering and conflicting entries, it made total sense to me why she had done so much snatching. Our Owner’s Manual. As I mentioned last week in my blog…
“My Owner’s Manual was written by a psycho!“ Unfortunately, when I learned what her mother had written in her Owner’s Manual about her, and how her dad had actually reinforced it, I actually couldn’t disagree with her statement. We all have one. We all have an Owner’s Manual that has specific instructions about who we…
“He’s the most miserable and unhappy man I’ve ever known. I truly am doing everything I know to do to make him happy. But no matter what, he is snappy and very unpleasant. What am I doing wrong? Where am I missing it? How do I reach him?” Her brokenness and desperation were obvious, even,…
“I have no idea what she wants! I’ve tried everything!” I hear such things often from clients (both husbands and wives) and they’re not usually fond of my response. “Everything? Really? Well then … tell me everything you’ve tried…” Usually I get the eye roll and get some half-baked answer like: “Well, you know ……
“If you think I need to follow that 80% positive to 20% negative thing you wrote about last week, I’m going to need a lot of duct tape for my mouth!” I knew he was not exaggerating, because I’d been seeing them, for about 3 or 4 months. Little did I know one comment in…
“This is the way my life is…it’s just my cross to bear.” “I was just born with this set of genes and we’re all fat …so, there’s no use in me trying to do anything about it.” “What does mind over matter mean anyway? Our brain cells come with us at birth … and that’s…