Digging Through the Layer of Pain, Fear and Anger
“I’m drowning in an ocean of pain. My husband says that I have no reason to be in so much pain over these little things. And if I cannot get them under control, he says he’ll have no choice but to leave to get away from them.” The tears, her slumped shoulders, the deep sobs […]
Medicating (One of the Layers that Bury Champions) & Your Marriage
“You have ruined my marriage!” Not the opening comments you hope to hear with a new client. “My wife sat me down last week and said that my medicating with alcohol was causing her distress and trauma. But the greatest trauma was watching the Champion in me trying to come out … and me drowning […]
Dealing With the Layer of Disempowering Messages That Bury Your Champion`
“I have a bone to pick with you, so YOU are on the hot seat today!” Interesting way to start a first session with a new client who was wagging his finger in front of my face. “Last week when you were talking about the layers that might bury the best parts of ourselves (our […]
What Life Is Like When Your Champion Is Buried
“I need to be institutionalized. Something is horribly wrong! Is there a place you can get me to and help me while maintaining my dignity? I’m terrified that someone’s going to find me in a corner in a fetal position foaming at the mouth. I’m so, so desperate. Please, please help me!” My heart went […]
Layers That Bury Champions
“After reading all your blogs, my wife thinks that she’s a certified therapist! She says that the reason I don’t care about her feelings (or our kids’ feelings) is that the good part of me is buried under ‘stuff’. She says that the good part of me is this Champion. And the layers are all […]
Who You Really Want to Be: A Conversation with Your Champion
“I hate who I’ve become since my divorce. I never dreamed he’d become such a venomous, unpredictable enemy. Or that I’d become so numb and lost at sea in the dark night of my soul.” I hurt for her, as she paused to slowly and carefully choose her every word. I knew I could help […]
What If This Is All There Is?(It Could Be If You Fail to Resurrect Your Champion!)
“You actually think (a glance away/slight eye roll) that because I’m sick of my life, sick of my job, sick of myself…That somehow YOU believe that means there’s a Champion in me? You’ve got to be kidding me!” I just nodded. He was on a roll (like a steamroller) so I let him talk. “I’m […]
Five Things…The Champion In Us All Have In Common
“What if we resurrect the Champion in me and I don’t like her? I mean, I do believe that I was meant to do more…and be more. I mean, like… well…what if she’s a pain in the *ss?” I had to chuckle because I understood more than I wish I did! First, I went over […]
You Simply MUST Believe There Is A Champion in You!
“I’m alcoholic, but I like to say I just drink a little. I don’t know that there’s anything left in me worth spending time or energy on. I know you say there’s a Champion inside of everyone. But maybe the ‘Champion Fairy’ missed me. Or maybe I destroyed it with my alcohol abuse.” I smiled […]
What Unresolved Trauma Does to Relationships
“Our marriage is barely hanging on by a thread. I saw a counselor who suggested that I find a good moment and share my feelings succinctly. Not just the things that bothered me, but how much I missed him and the fun we used to have… I waited and waited for the right moment … […]