I couldn’t breathe. My chest was pounding, but in a different way. It was like each pounding beat was the breaking off of another piece of my heart. Pain shot through my neck and down my left arm like a bullet. I was dizzy. My hands were sweaty, I was shaking as if unclothed in…
We even acknowledge it in our invitations: “the honor of your presence is requested”… Presence matters! But the presence I’m talking about is not your body being present and accounted for. The presence I’m speaking of is you being present in body, mind, heart, and spirit. For you, for your loving relationships, for your family,…
Yes! I’m talking to you! No matter where you are on your journey, your DNA has the programming of wings to fly… to take you to greater places! I was just a little girl when this revelation came to me. Maybe it was the science class I was in, maybe it was a moment of…
“The devil made me do it.” Although the blame game began long before this saying became popular, it has been a constant battle since the beginning of time. I’ve heard it said that it began in the garden when Adam blamed his wife for preparing him apple pie for dinner, and his wife blamed the…
I was intrigued the first time that I heard Tony Robbins say the quote, “success without fulfillment is the greatest failure.” I knew it was true, because although receiving my doctoral degree with honors was a great success, it brought no fulfillment. I woke up the next morning and thought to myself, “I worked all…
Your fulfillment in life … your relationships, your project success, your career success, your business success, your financial success; ALL of your success … is TOTALLY predictable! No, I’m not a fortuneteller, and I certainly do not have a crystal ball. But neither is necessary to assess your destination, your fulfillment, and your success (or…
Getting our needs met. Yes … it’s the one thing that can put us in danger of violating our values, give up our goals, and sacrifice our dreams. WOW! If you had any psychology courses at all, you will remember Abraham Maslow’s “hierarchy of needs.” I was absolutely blown away by the concepts, because it…
A funk. Don’t look at me like you don’t know what a funk is. We all have them. And they are always dysfunktional! I define a funk as that place we go when we have been hurt, upset, or disappointed. We go to that place, and we nurse our wounds, rehearse the wrongs done to…
Shame. It can be a gift, and it can be a curse. Unfortunately, all too many of us experience the curse and miss the gift. Particularly in relationships. Let me start by separating guilt and shame. There’s been much research and much said about both, and their relationship to one another. The fundamental difference is…
The first time I heard the phrase, “you are as sick as your secrets” I wondered if they were speaking of being mentally/emotionally sick? Or physically sick? It turns out that research shows both are true. We now have years of research showing that the feeling of “safety” (both physically and emotionally) is one of…