What Unresolved Trauma Does to Relationships
“Our marriage is barely hanging on by a thread. I saw a counselor who suggested that I find a good moment and share my feelings succinctly. Not just the things that bothered me, but how much I missed him and the fun we used to have… I waited and waited for the right moment … […]
Why I Am So Passionate about Those with Unresolved Trauma
“Be honest … Do you ever feel like your dedication and mission to love people with unresolved trauma is akin to loving the unlovable?“ I was stunned by the question, and I thought for sure he would edit my almost indignant response out of the broadcast. When I watched the recording, I realize the look […]
THINGS YOU WILL WISH YOU HAD DONE SOONER THAN LATER ON YOUR JOURNEY HEALING FROM TRAUMA
The host reacted to what he called “the urgent desperation” in my voice as I shared the words: “Just get started!” He said, “The urgent desperation in your voice sounds almost like you are pleading out an invitation.” Recently, I was on a broadcast speaking about trauma recovery. The host asked me a tough, but […]
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU NEED EXTRA HELP IN TRAUMA RECOVERY
“I am working faithfully in the trauma recovery workbook that you recommended to my wife for me. But for the life of me … I cannot stop going back to the moment of those tires screeching.” I leaned toward him and nodded as he dropped his head into his hands. I whispered gently, “I am […]
SUPPORTING SOMEONE YOU LOVE THROUGH TRAUMA RECOVERY
“Oh my God! Now I have a whole new problem!” “After all the hard work you helped me do to get him into his trauma recovery, I bet you thought you wouldn’t be hearing from me.” “I am so grateful that he is doing the work to heal from his trauma after years of denial, […]
WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOUR PARTNER/SPOUSE HAS UNRESOLVED TRAUMA & HOW YOU CAN HELP
“I just feel like life, hope and energy have been sucked right out of me. He has no empathy, refuses to do things that are kind and loving, and says such mean things.” “I’m having physical side effects from the stress, and I cry myself to sleep almost every night. I’m lonely. I’m hurt. I’m […]
Breaking Free From A Trauma Bond
“There’s something terribly wrong with me. I’ve spent thousands of dollars in therapy healing from the trauma. But I keep going back for more. It’s like this vacuum that sucks me back, and I can’t seem to stop it. “I know he’s an alcoholic. I know he lies to me. I know there was verbal […]
AVOID THESE FIVE THINGS THAT PREVENT PEOPLE FROM HEALING FROM TRAUMA
“I’ve poured my heart and soul into healing from the trauma. But for some reason I still can’t seem to shake loose from this man who has broken my heart again and again. Even though I’ve done the trauma work, I keep going back. What on earth is wrong with me? Is there any hope […]
Five Things You Must Embrace and Believe to Heal from Trauma
“I thought I had all that trauma either tucked away securely under the seat in front of me, or in the overhead bin. But my wife handed me that article you wrote, and once again, I knew I was drowning in a swamp of shame. I guess it will never go away? “So here I […]
FIVE THINGS YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW TO BEGIN YOUR JOURNEY OF HEALING FROM TRAUMA
“I woke up in horrible pain, gagging. I didn’t know my jaws were wired shut. My mother was screaming and going crazy, and the nurses took her out. I was alone, and I am sure I was terrified.” “I did not know at that moment that I had been run over by a car. I […]