Dealing With the Layer of Disempowering Messages That Bury Your Champion`
“I have a bone to pick with you, so YOU are on the hot seat today!” Interesting way to start a first session with a new client who was wagging his finger in front of my face. “Last week when you were talking about the layers that might bury the best parts of ourselves (our […]
What Life Is Like When Your Champion Is Buried
“I need to be institutionalized. Something is horribly wrong! Is there a place you can get me to and help me while maintaining my dignity? I’m terrified that someone’s going to find me in a corner in a fetal position foaming at the mouth. I’m so, so desperate. Please, please help me!” My heart went […]
Layers That Bury Champions
“After reading all your blogs, my wife thinks that she’s a certified therapist! She says that the reason I don’t care about her feelings (or our kids’ feelings) is that the good part of me is buried under ‘stuff’. She says that the good part of me is this Champion. And the layers are all […]
Who You Really Want to Be: A Conversation with Your Champion
“I hate who I’ve become since my divorce. I never dreamed he’d become such a venomous, unpredictable enemy. Or that I’d become so numb and lost at sea in the dark night of my soul.” I hurt for her, as she paused to slowly and carefully choose her every word. I knew I could help […]
What If This Is All There Is?(It Could Be If You Fail to Resurrect Your Champion!)
“You actually think (a glance away/slight eye roll) that because I’m sick of my life, sick of my job, sick of myself…That somehow YOU believe that means there’s a Champion in me? You’ve got to be kidding me!” I just nodded. He was on a roll (like a steamroller) so I let him talk. “I’m […]
Five Things…The Champion In Us All Have In Common
“What if we resurrect the Champion in me and I don’t like her? I mean, I do believe that I was meant to do more…and be more. I mean, like… well…what if she’s a pain in the *ss?” I had to chuckle because I understood more than I wish I did! First, I went over […]
You Simply MUST Believe There Is A Champion in You!
“I’m alcoholic, but I like to say I just drink a little. I don’t know that there’s anything left in me worth spending time or energy on. I know you say there’s a Champion inside of everyone. But maybe the ‘Champion Fairy’ missed me. Or maybe I destroyed it with my alcohol abuse.” I smiled […]
What Unresolved Trauma Does to Relationships
“Our marriage is barely hanging on by a thread. I saw a counselor who suggested that I find a good moment and share my feelings succinctly. Not just the things that bothered me, but how much I missed him and the fun we used to have… I waited and waited for the right moment … […]
Why I Am So Passionate about Those with Unresolved Trauma
“Be honest … Do you ever feel like your dedication and mission to love people with unresolved trauma is akin to loving the unlovable?“ I was stunned by the question, and I thought for sure he would edit my almost indignant response out of the broadcast. When I watched the recording, I realize the look […]
THINGS YOU WILL WISH YOU HAD DONE SOONER THAN LATER ON YOUR JOURNEY HEALING FROM TRAUMA
The host reacted to what he called “the urgent desperation” in my voice as I shared the words: “Just get started!” He said, “The urgent desperation in your voice sounds almost like you are pleading out an invitation.” Recently, I was on a broadcast speaking about trauma recovery. The host asked me a tough, but […]