“I was reading to my grandson from Dr. Seuss’s book: Oh, the Places You’ll Go!” my client shared.
“He was giggling, and all the while I was thinking, I’m pretty sure that you co-authored this book!”
“You’ll be on your way up!
You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers
Who soar to high heights.
You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed.
You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you’ll be the best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.”
We both had a good laugh as he continued.
“I’ve done my homework, and I am ready to go! Let’s do something with these limiting beliefs, because I’m ready to go to those extraordinary places!”
I hope you too have done your homework, and that you’re ready to take the steps that will make all the difference in the world!
So … buckle your seatbelt as we do some brain and heart surgery on any and/or all of those limiting beliefs!
1. Scramble those life suckers!
Yes … limiting beliefs suck life out of us!
My client asked if I had a plan to “scramble” him like an egg when I told him this was the first step.
I assured him: “Well for sure … we want to scramble those disempowering beliefs!”
We began our work on his disempowering beliefs about his intimacy with his wife.
When I asked him the disempowering belief that would make the most difference if we scrambled it, he examined his list.
He chose one that said: “If I roll my eyes and half pay attention when she wants to ‘talk’ … she will get over trying to ‘talk’ to me to feel close.”
I assured him that was a good one to scramble if he truly desired the closeness they once had.
Choose one disempowering belief you have to start with. One that you believe would make a major difference in your life if you scrambled it.
You/me/we must shake things up. Sometimes that’s what it takes to jar us from complacency to action. And it’s from that action that we can change the wiring in our heads and hearts. And that’ll change everything.
When I have clients working on their disempowering beliefs, I often suggest that they get a spiral notebook or a journal and write one disempowering belief per page, with nothing on the back of the page.
Why?
Well, there’s something about “snatching out” pages. I literally have people snatch pages out that do not need to be part of their wiring any longer.
This is no longer hocus pocus … science has proven that we CAN affect our cognition and replace our neuro-circuitry!
Get alone if you must make it dramatic. Because sometimes “dramatic action” is what it takes to change your drama to predictable.
It’s a fun thing to do to just start snatching pages out, wadding them up, and throwing them on the floor.
But “snatching pages out” is what I call a “weak scramble!”
You know how when you enter a password for something on your phone or on your computer it will tell you if it is “weak” … and not allow you to use it for a password?
I don’t want you to just do a “weak scramble.”
Because those old disempowering beliefs will be back nipping at you on the backside if you don’t do a very ‘strong-intense-on purpose-scramble’!
I have my clients do at least 3 things for a powerful scramble.
Here are some of the options to choose 3 things from:
- Say the entry that you want to get rid of backwards at least 12 times with a loud voice. For example, my client’s disempowering belief was: “If I roll my eyes and half pay attention when she wants to ‘talk’ … she will get over trying to ‘talk’ to me to feel close.”
Over and over more than a dozen times, I had him proclaim out loud: “Close feel to me to ‘talk’ to trying over get will she … ‘talk’ to wants she when attention pay half and eyes my roll I if!”
I had him say it loud and proud over and over! Louder! Faster!
It actually took that entry in his brain and confused his brain so that his brain would eject it!
- Another way we scrambled was for him to say the words of the disempowering belief he was deleting in his best Donald Duck voice over and over. His brain considered it funny and will never again take it seriously!
- I also had him say each word of the disempowering belief and force a hiccup between each word. Once again, his brain was confused and would never again be able to hold onto that belief because it altered all the focus to be on the ridiculous hiccups!
- I had him locate the page with that disempowering belief on it that he had snatched out of his notebook. Then tear it into little bitty pieces. While at the same time talking to that old, outdated lame belief the whole time. Saying things like:
- “You are just a lie.”
- “This is not true.”
- “This is ridiculous.”
- “You are not welcome here anymore.”
I had him drop those little giblets of paper on the floor and jump up and down on them, and music to stomp to. We used the song:
“Hit the road, Jack, and don’t you come back no more no more no more no more! Hit the road, Jack, and don’t you come back no more!”
We sang it at the top of our lungs as he stomped it out!
Finally, we did something symbolic with the giblets of paper!
- Burn them. We took the giblets out to the firepit and burned them. While he watched it burn, he said: “Burn, baby, burn!” … “You are nothing but ashes!”
- Take the ashes or giblets of paper and bury them. My client took his home and dug a hole for a new lemon tree (that his wife had been wanting for years). He placed the ashes at the bottom of the hole and gave his wife a great gift! By getting rid of a belief that prevented her from feeling close and giving her the tree she had been wanting.
Choose at least 3 of the above and do a POWERFUL and STRONG scramble!
You deserve this!
2. Create empowering beliefs that make you unstoppable!
“I’m ready for that!” my client stated enthusiastically.
After a fun time of scrambling, I had given him the homework that I will be asking you to do as well.
“Let’s now boost those old disempowering beliefs to mega empowering beliefs!” I instructed him.
We started together on the disempowering belief we’d scrambled together: “If I roll my eyes and half pay attention when she wants to ‘talk’ … she’ll get over trying to ‘talk’ to me to feel close.”
As I instructed him, this is not just saying the opposite of the disempowering belief. It’s about totally replacing it with something that is empowering and will get you what you want.
The word ‘empowering’ is a real key when you’re rewriting disempowering beliefs and making them mega empowering.
What do I mean by empowering?
In this case, the definition of ‘empowering is …
Anything that inspires you, propels you, or assists you in becoming the best version of you, and becoming all, you were created to be, and accomplishing all you were created to do. And moves you in the direction you deeply desire to gol
All of us create a life of thinking in certain ways, with certain bents, and supporting beliefs. Few of us take the time to inventory them and ask hard questions about their value.
I know how difficult it is to see things that you want to discard from your thinking … I’ve been there myself!
But these seemingly too-simple, silly cognitive exercises when fully engaged by us, can and will permanently change patterns of thinking that we can live without!
Because it’s certain no life with them running the show!
I asked my client if he’d like to make an effort at creating an empowering belief that would get him what he really wanted to replace the disempowering belief. With a bit of an expression of trepidation, he nodded.
I waited.
Finally, he said.
“If I welcome my wife’s desire to ‘talk’ and do my best to engage in the conversation, she might feel close?”
“Good start!” I affirmed.
“Now let’s make it even more empowering.”
He looked totally stumped.
I asked if he would like a suggestion?
His nod and look of relief gave me permission to suggest: “I really like the first part. But what if we added something more certain to the end?”
He nodded again.
I suggested … “If I welcome my wife’s desire to ‘talk’ and do my best to engage in the conversation, she will find me irresistible!”
He laughed out loud because all of the sudden … he got it!
“Now I’m all about that!”
Write your first effort for each disempowering belief and do your best to make it ‘empowering’.
DO IT … TRY IT … WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE?!
Then I want you to hear me saying to you… “You can do better than that! Light a bonfire of empowerment and write it one more time!”
This is your life! This is your empowering belief!
TAKE IT TO THE LIMIT!
3. Let’s install these new empowering beliefs with passion!
“I have a feeling I’m in for a rodeo!” my client commented with a big grin.
“If a rodeo sounds like something that’s fun and refreshing … let’s have a rodeo!” I told him!
Literally, it’s time to install these new empowering beliefs into your heart and into your brain.
Just as you can have a file in your downloads to install on your computer, but if you never click on it and actually go through the steps to install it, it will never be functional.
The same is true with these new empowering beliefs.
They can be sitting in your download file, but without the steps to actually install them, they’ll never become empowering and a driving force in your life … driving you to extraordinary!
So how do you install them?
You must say them out loud with intensity while moving your body! Say them over and over and over.
Adding music in the background is the most powerful way to securely install them.
We took my client’s new mega empowering belief, and used a song he requested called … ‘Rattle!’
Check out a few of the lyrics or click on this link and use it yourself!
Resurrection power
Runs in my veins too
I believe there’s another miracle
Here in this room!
This is the sound
Of dry bones rattling
This is what
Makes a dead man walk again
Open the grave
I’m coming out
I’m gonna live
Gonna live again
This is the sound
Of dry bones rattling
With the music cranking, he marched in placed while proclaiming again and again, louder and louder:
“If I welcome my wife’s desire to ‘talk’ and do my best to engage in the conversation, she will find me irresistible!”
Trust me!
After 15 minutes of this on loop and proclaiming his new empowering belief … while we were both pumping our arms and walking in place … this new empowering belief was deep in his heart, his brain and his soul!
And the great news is yours can be the same!
Now, all he will have to do is play that song in his earbuds every morning when getting ready for his day!
And God help anyone who tries to stand in his way of being irresistible on his way to extraordinary!
I hope you will not just read this.
I hope you will DO it!
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Several months later, my client came back in with his wife. She had seen such a difference in him that she wanted to work on her disempowering beliefs too.
He beamed as she told me that she had found an old song to play for him because he’d been so different.
It was called … ‘Simply Irresistable!’
He’s a craze you’d endorse
He’s a powerful force
You’re obliged to conform
When there’s no other course
He used to look good to me
But now I find him …
Simply irresistible!
He then proudly announced that he had not told her that “irresistible” had been one of the words in his new empowering belief.
“I already believed this process had made all the difference in the world for me … but when she brought that song to me, I was definitely a believer!”
We all had a moment to celebrate his new empowering belief as he continued.
“So, when she said she wanted to work on her disempowering beliefs, I knew right where to bring her!”
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” – Theodore Roosevelt
“I tell you with certainty if anyone says to this mountain, “Be lifted up and thrown into the sea” if he doesn’t doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen it will be done for him.” – Jesus
I believe new empowering beliefs will take you to extraordinary!
