Couples often repeat that catchy phrase in my office. Most people don’t know to call it “incongruence.” But in relationships (of all kinds) it’s a problem. It’s particularly a problem in marriages or in “significant other” relationships. Both partners are impacted, both the partner being incongruent, and the partner experiencing it. In this context, “incongruent”…
“I’m listening with my Mickey Mouse ears on!“ The first time I heard that, I laughed out loud! For some reason it just hit me with an image that I’ve always remembered. Perhaps it’s the reason I have a set of Mickey Mouse ears (and a red heart shaped plate) in the drawer in the…
Last week I jumped onto a conference call via zoom with my consultant, Cari. I’m always so happy to see her smiling face and hear her voice. But the thing I look forward to the most is the lettering behind her on her wall: “Something wonderful is about to happen.” Do you wake up with…
About three weeks ago, I was out on my front balcony watering the beautiful fuchsia and the pink and white vincas in the flower box on the rail. Suddenly there was a fluttering from inside the flower box; a rustling of the vincas. A bird flew out! It all happened so fast it was a…
The question is … will YOU be onboard? An extraordinary life! Extraordinary relationships, extraordinary health, extraordinary energy, extraordinary career, extraordinary faith, extraordinary finances, extraordinary purpose! Who can have it? Anyone willing to invest in it! And I know you want it! This past week, I broadcasted five Master Class webinars on designing an extraordinary life.…
“Dr. Neecie, why do all of your blogs and everything you post on Facebook have something to say about extraordinary?” This week, someone asked that question. I responded to her in detail. After hearing my response, she said, “Why don’t you write a blog on that?” I love feedback, so here I am doing just that!…
What is forgiveness? And what does it have to do with our health? And what does it have to do with our relationships? EVERYTHING! The psychological definition of forgiveness is giving up resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve forgiveness or not. The Bible dictionary of…
Two weeks ago, I wrote a blog about connection disorder. It obviously hit a nerve for some and resonated with others, because the responses were the most I had had in quite some time to one of my blogs. If you would like to read the first blog, you can do so by clicking here.…
When I was young, I loved to sing Dionne Warwick and Stevie Wonder’s song, “That’s What Friends Are For”, at the top of my lungs! The song just made me so happy! Especially the chorus: Keep smiling, keep shining, Knowing you can always count on me! For sure! That’s what friends are for! In good…
What is a connection disorder? It has been defined as “an emotional dysfunction that prevents the forming of caring or intimate bonds with another person.” I have always referred to it as “Love Avoidant, Attachment Resistant, and Commitment Sidestepping.” It is a condition that leaves that person surrounded by a trail of devastation, and floods…