“Something is horribly wrong with me. It seems that no matter what I do, no matter what happens, I end up angry.“ When I hear those words (regardless of the feeling) … I know it’s someone’s “emotional home” speaking. Sometimes clients say: “I have done so much work on my fear, but I keep coming…
“Do you want me to superglue myself to her? I don’t get all the connection stuff you are talking about!“ Although his comment made me smile, it saddened my heart to note once again, as occurs often in my office, that a connection is a real challenge for so many. Connection is the essence of…
”I’m not sure which love song to sing at this point. At times, I think I should sing Whitney Houston’s: ‘If I should stay, I would only be in your way.So I’ll go, but I know …I’ll think of you every step of the wayAnd I will always love you.’ Or if I should sing…
“What’s love got to do with this?” was his retort after her heartfelt request: “I just want to know that you love me.” This is not an unusual scenario to unfold in my office. While our focus is on the pandemic of Covid, there’s another pandemic going … and that is withholding or denying love.…
“What’s the point? My marriage has failed, I am looking old, I’m depressed, and there’s just nothing worth living for anymore.” I listened with compassion, and leaned toward her as I asked gently: “Do you know the purpose of your life? Because that is the point.” Her lip quivered and tears began to flow as…
“Ummmm…”… “Hmmmmmm…” I am never speechless but those were the only two sounds I could utter. The host chuckled and said, “That was the exact response Oprah gave when asked the exact same question!” I was on a podcast last week, and I guess he thought I would be somewhat relieved to hear that Oprah…
She sobbed from a broken heart as I sat with her. Then in despair she looked up and asked: “Why can’t we all just use our time to love each other like it was our last day on earth?” I was processing my dear friend through the sudden loss of her husband. From diagnosis to…
“So I guess you’re just wanting me to start a bonfire right here in your office?“ He came in because he felt he was “losing his edge.“ About a year ago, we had ceased his bridge burning, and taken a torch to his boats. Amazing things were happening in his business, and in his marriage.…
The couple walked into my office, and the husband flopped back in the chair as if he had just been on 100 mile cattle drive. He groaned audibly followed by: “Hell I don’t know if we should burn the bridges or burn the boats! Hopefully you can help us decide and give us a match!“ …
“We are having some challenges, and we both feel wounded. We are both deeply committed to getting back on track. But we both agree we need a little boost to help us get there.“ I cannot tell you how much I love receiving those kinds of texts and voice messages. Because clearly they are healing…