DETERMINATION … Key to Extraordinary Results!
“I am determined … to be invincible! Until he has finished his purpose in me.” I was working my way through graduate school when I first heard this song. The song was one of the most powerful I had ever heard. And when I had the privilege of singing backup on this song with the […]
XLR8 to Fearlessness!
Last week, I spoke at a conference called “Becoming Fearless.” I have spoken at this conference for many years, and about six months in advance they always send me the title of what they want my talk to be about. This year it was “How to Overcome Fear.” My first words when I stepped up to the […]
GENEROSITY … And the Great 8 Side Effects
Generosity has side effects! We are most accustomed to hearing the words “side effects” used in relation to medications, and the “bad things” that might happen. But generosity has amazingly wonderful side effects! I am often surprised by what people respond to when they read my blogs. A few weeks ago, I mentioned a little […]
The Rewards of Keeping On Keepin’ On!
Keeping on keepin’ on …. To some this means quitting is not an option. To others it means seeing something through despite distractions or roadblocks. To me it means faithfulness. Exactly what is faithfulness? Some of the dictionary definitions are: • Loyalty • Steady in allegiance or affection • True to […]
THE SECRET TO MORE FULFILLMENT AND GREATER SUCCESS!
Is there really such a thing? Absolutely there is! And there is much research to substantiate it. What is it? FOCUS! What is focus? It has been defined as: “The ability to set one’s mind and attention on a particular course until it yields the desired results.” Unfortunately, we live in a culture where focus […]
7 Do’s & 7 Don’ts in the Communication of Couples with Extraordinary Relationships
Communication. We all know it’s important, or we would not have our electronic rectangle in our hands so much much of the day. Research says we are engaged in some sort of communication 70 to 80% of our daily awake time. And we only spend 55% of that time listening. Worse, research also says we […]
WHEN ACTIONS SPEAK SO LOUD OTHERS CAN’T HEAR WHAT YOU ARE SAYING: THE PROBLEM WITH INCONGRUENCE
Couples often repeat that catchy phrase in my office. Most people don’t know to call it “incongruence.” But in relationships (of all kinds) it’s a problem. It’s particularly a problem in marriages or in “significant other” relationships. Both partners are impacted, both the partner being incongruent, and the partner experiencing it. In this context, “incongruent” […]
The Science of Hearing, The Art/Heart of Listening
“I’m listening with my Mickey Mouse ears on!“ The first time I heard that, I laughed out loud! For some reason it just hit me with an image that I’ve always remembered. Perhaps it’s the reason I have a set of Mickey Mouse ears (and a red heart shaped plate) in the drawer in the […]
Expectation + Exclamation = Destination
Last week I jumped onto a conference call via zoom with my consultant, Cari. I’m always so happy to see her smiling face and hear her voice. But the thing I look forward to the most is the lettering behind her on her wall: “Something wonderful is about to happen.” Do you wake up with […]
The Mother Dove, Our Brains, and Incredible Relationships
About three weeks ago, I was out on my front balcony watering the beautiful fuchsia and the pink and white vincas in the flower box on the rail. Suddenly there was a fluttering from inside the flower box; a rustling of the vincas. A bird flew out! It all happened so fast it was a […]