Symptoms of Disorganized Attachment Wounds as Adults: What Their Relationships Look Like
“I finally get it, but I did not choose these attachment wounds, or my attachment style. But why do I feel so much shame about them?” my client asked with almost the tone of a pleading little boy. “I understand, totally,” I assured him. “Although my angel-like mother balanced out a lot of the horrific […]
What A Child with Attachment Wounds Looks Like
“How do you know if someone isn’t getting their needs met or if they’re just needy?” my client asked. “Oh, my goodness … you certainly know how to get me on a soapbox!” I responded immediately. “One hundred percent of humans have four basic needs to survive (safety/security, significance, support and love, surprise/variety) … and […]
Attachment Wounds
“I don’t think I have any attachment wounds … I just don’t attach!” my client mused. I realized he was thinking … as many do … that wounds are things you can see. Rarely are attachment wounds anything you can see externally. The only way to “see” attachment wounds is to look at how people […]
How We Attach Affects EVERYTHING In Our Lives
“The first time you told me I had a ‘connection disorder’ … I thought you meant my mouth and my brain weren’t connected!” my client said to me as he walked in my office. “And maybe that’s true too!” he commented … before I had a chance to say it! We both enjoyed a good […]
Questions/Answers about Fixing What’s Been Broken
“We have a question we’d love for you to answer …” The couple I’d worked with and shared their story with you asked. “Why are couples so resistant to this process? Why isn’t everyone doing it? And how do you convince them it’s necessary and does miracles?” In jest, I turned to […]
A NEW BEGINNING AFTER FIXING WHAT’S BEEN BROKEN
“I think a ‘new beginning’ is exactly what’s going on in our marriage!” the wife boasted. “I would’ve said early on that I just wanted things to get back to the way they used to be,” the husband commented. “Only because I had no idea that a ‘new beginning’ was even possible after all […]
The Forgiveness Journey after Fixing What’s Been Broken
The wife of my client began the session with: “I never thought that I’d be able to forgive him for what he did. I mean … I believe in forgiveness, and I know it’s important. I just didn’t think it was humanly possible for me.” After doing great work on all the steps I’d […]
Rebuilding Trust after Breaking a Promise or a Heart
“I would’ve never guessed that we could move forward from all I’ve done. But I can literally see her healing and I’m so … so thankful!” my client shared after completing the second set of 3 steps on … “Fixing What You’ve Broken.” “When she shared her perspective on what happened at that moment, […]
Keeping The Fires Burning In Your Newly Designed Marriage Or Relationship
It was their concluding session after working through the emotional and verbal abuse that had plagued their marriage for years. I shared with them, as I’d like to share with you, that if you want to have a vehicle that lasts a long time…you must do regular maintenance on it. It needs to be refilled […]
Coming Together to Tackle & Throw Emotional Abuse OUT of Your Relationship
“I know he still needs to continue addressing his trauma. But I promise you … the man who sleeps in my bed is a man I’ve never known. Even in his best moments!” The wife of the couple I’d been working with was beaming. Her eyes were sparkling, her energy levels were vastly improved, her […]