Reinstalling the Faith That Trauma Steals From Us
“Sometimes I feel like there’s a fine, thin line between faith and stupidity,” my client said to me. I had to laugh, because I had to work up the courage to ask my pastor a similar question many years ago when I was a student in Bible college. Actually, I asked: “How do I know […]
Let’s Kick the Energy Thief to the Curb!
“I think just understanding what’s going on in my body helped my fatigue some,” my client shared in his second session. I nodded with understanding. I hear this frequently. In truth, patterns define us. And when we live from ingrained patterns, that we’re unaware even exist, it can cause the best of us to give […]
What’s Trauma Got to Do with Fatigue?
“I’ve been to every specialist imaginable … and they say ‘I’m fine’ … yet I’m struggling to function due to fatigue. I’m not making this up!” my client said with great despair. I remember a time when I had the same struggle. Some doctors called it “burn out” while others told me my labs were […]
Offering More Help With Repairs After VMH Aggressions
“Every time I complete one of the assignments you’ve given me, my first instinct is to share it with her. Which reminds me of the pain of her absence,” my client shared. I totally understood my partner’s loneliness, and his desire to share his healing process with his spouse (who’s still absent from his life). […]
Regret That Makes Repairs After VMH Aggression
You’ve sown now you reap. I wish I had better news: it’s the one truth that we all share. It’s time to sow again: ask a farmer … sometimes our best doesn’t produce. But, with a newness of heart and mind, we sow again. And along the way, all the reapings somehow work out for […]
Your VMH Makes You Appear Selfish … But I Know That’s Not Who You Are!
“Selfish! That’s why I lost her! I was selfish! So focused on what I had to spew out when my VMH was activated … that I had not one moment of understanding I was destroying her!” my client that I mentioned two weeks ago strained to share while weeping. He had read my first two […]
Your Aggressions Aren’t Your Fault … But Now It’s Your Responsibility
“I guess she just wants someone perfect who’ll tolerate her emotions, so I’m out!” my client seethed. Last week, I shared three scenarios of people who were struggling with VMH issues, and that was one of the comments I had reported. In case you haven’t read last week’s blog (https://drneecie.com/when-our-brain-takes-over-learning-to-make-repairs-after-less-than-ideal-moments/) … VMH (Ventromedial Hypothalamus) is […]
When our Brain Takes Over: Learning to Make Repairs After “Less Than Ideal” Moments
“I’ve destroyed my relationship,” my client said as he wept. “I guess she just wants someone perfect who will tolerate her emotions, so I’m out!” another client seethed. “I don’t know why I get so dysregulated and say such awful things to him, but I can’t bear to look at one more thing […]
The Beautiful Combination of Faith, Miracles, & Trauma Healing
“I’m truly not trying to be controversial… but I’m just very curious. Does the existence of trauma coaching defy faith?” I knew my client was not being controversial though I knew it was a sincere question. And it’s not the first time I’ve heard similar questions. By the time our conversation ended, […]
Transforming Your Life Like Michelangelo
“Is Coaching an art or a science?” A client considering my Coach Training & Certification Course asked me this, this week. Immediately, I thought of the title of Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s course: “The Art and Science of Love!” Then my mind shifted to what Tony Robbins says: “The two master skills of life […]