What If You Haven’t Missed Your Calling … Instead …You’ve Been Preparing for It?
“I really don’t know why I’m here. I had my ‘moment of fame’ … and now I guess I have to come to terms with my best days being behind me. Seems like I’m at a loss as to what to do next …” I knew he had been the face of some very […]
You Don’t Have to Be Broken to Need the Bridge
“So I’ve been reading everything you’re writing about longing for more, being created for more, wanting to make more of a difference. If I told you I don’t long for more, don’t want to become more, and don’t particularly care about influencing anyone … would you just tell me I’m a narcissist?” Sometimes the […]
Does Your Marriage Need a Bridge?
“I was so drawn to what you said in your talk about not letting your song die within you … and I deeply wanted to take the next step to the bridge. But my marriage isn’t in the best shape. I’m guessing I should get that straightened out first?” I was truly honored that she […]
WHEN LIFE HURTS …
“My boss said some really harsh and derogatory things to me and my team this past week. He’s known for that.” She paused I waited. “Normally, it would have spiraled me into deep hurt, shame, and despair. This time, it stung … But it didn’t blow my emotional house down.” It’s […]
WHAT HAPPENS IN ME BECAUSE OF WHAT I KEEP LOOKING FOR IN YOU?
“I found myself so torn up by the radical political stances I was seeing, that I actually found myself feeling hate. It was consuming me … and that’s not who I am or who I want to be. So, I decided to make myself look for something I might like about those people outside of […]
Get MORE? Do MORE? or Become MORE and Contribute MORE?
“I am completely over getting more ‘stuff’ … and to be honest, I don’t want to have to do more either. Yet I long for MORE. I know that sounds crazy but please don’t give me a diagnosis! I just want to understand what’s whirling around in my brain!” I laughed. Not because her confusion was funny. […]
What Are YOU Taking to the Grave?
What Are You Taking to the Grave? “You’ll think I’m crazy when I tell you this … but please hear me out. I have plenty of money to retire on. We’ve been living in our ‘forever home’ that my wife designed for almost seven years. We’ve got a beach condo and a mountain cabin. […]
What to Do When Life Isn’t Working …
“Something’s just not working. My life just isn’t firing on all cylinders. I don’t really know how to say what I’m trying to say … I didn’t think this is where I’d be at this point in my life. Should I just accept it? Or is there even anything I can do about it?” I […]
Surely There’s More to Life Than This …
“I’m tired of settling. A house in a neighborhood I don’t really love. A job that bores me. A marriage that’s good. We go to church. We taxi our kids to their sports. Nothing bad in my life … but nothing great. A pause. “Is that just selfish? Do you need to tell me to […]
Making the Church a Safe Place for the Traumatized
“I swear… if my wife and I survive this ministry trauma, I’m going to make every church I ever speak in trauma-informed.” He leaned forward as he said it, emotion filling his voice. He meant every word. For years, he and his wife had traveled across denominations, leading marriage retreats, strengthening families, and […]