Healing Resentment: The Hard Science & Gentle Grace of Letting Go
“I know you warned me about the letters from my wife and my son … and that I could read them … but that was not the purpose. That it was to reach others who weren’t ready to own that their resentments were holding their families prisoner,” my client almost whispered. I nodded with empathy, […]
Resentment’s Collateral Damage: When Your Pain Becomes Everyone’s Prison
“He doesn’t call it resentment he just calls it ‘coming to terms with a sh*tty past’!” my client’s wife commented when she came in. You may not call it resentment. You might call it… Frustration… Disappointment… Righteous anger… Having boundaries. I don’t care what you call it. I just care that you free yourself […]
When Resentment & the 95% of You (That’s Preprogrammed) Collide
“I’m still not over how my son ruined my business, how my wife lied about me, and how my life fell apart!” The mix of anguish, regret, venom, and deep pain poured out like contemptuous lava, that could incinerate a 12-story building. He was speaking of events that had occurred decades ago. Yet for him, […]
Here’s Your Dressed Rehearsal for the Life You’ll Love: Training Your Brain to Level Up
“You know that exercise we did last week … and me narrating the story three times … well … that felt like a ‘dressed rehearsal’ for the life I’ve been longing for!” my client shared with a solid sense of peace, hope, and expectation. I smiled and affirmed: “That’s exactly what you were doing. And […]
You’re Living a Life Someone Else Designed: How to Rewire Your 95%
“I know you tell me that ‘just reading’ my assignments won’t bring transformation. I’m ready to ‘DO’ …” my client confessed. These are the moments I live for. “I just finished doing a review of my year. It was okay. Maybe even good. But the same challenges, the same patterns and cycles … still leave […]
Hope for the Best with Your 5%… or Rewire Your 95%
“If half of what my wife told me you said is true … we should all be listening to this and doing something about it!” my client blurted out before I could even exchange pleasantries. I was curious … because my style is not to alarm people … and he most definitely sounded alarmed. Like […]
The Power of Our Connections: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly
“I just don’t get the ‘big deal’ about who I hang out with. I mean … they’re all guys, and just because we don’t believe the same things or act the same way doesn’t mean anything?!” my client stated with complete disgust. I’m no stranger to this conversation. I hear it from spouses, adolescents and […]
Rewiring Vs. Resolutions & Goals
“All of a sudden, goals and resolutions don’t seem nearly as important as insuring we keep our growth mindset moving forward. How do you suggest we make that a top priority … seems like a square peg in the round hole when it comes to traditional new year planning?” That was from the husband of […]
THE TUG OF WAR: WHEN FIXED MINDSET GOES TOE TO TOE WITH GROWTH MINDSET
“I know he’s doing his exercises … but how do I hang on in the meantime? I’m so weary!” It was a valid question from my client’s wife that I’ve been writing about over the past few weeks as we’ve looked at transitioning from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. It’s a question I […]
Three Hacks to Major Steps Toward A Growth Mindset
“How’s this for journaling takeaways and charting negativity?” my client arrived with the largest journal I’ve ever seen in my life. Holding it up to tout his compliance with his homework from our last session. (I hope you did all the preparation work I outlined in last week’s blog … that he was bragging about […]