The first time I heard the phrase, “you are as sick as your secrets” I wondered if they were speaking of being mentally/emotionally sick? Or physically sick? It turns out that research shows both are true. We now have years of research showing that the feeling of “safety” (both physically and emotionally) is one of…
This week, I am doing a Master Class series called: “The Fail-Proof Strategy for Coaching Yourself (& Others) to Extraordinary: In Your Life, Your Business, Your Relationships & Your Finances!” Click here if you’re not yet registered and would like to join us for this free Master Class. Think you are not suited to take…
I remember all too well what I call “the dark night of my soul.” Going through something that no one should ever have to experience. I’m guessing it’s probably happened to you, too. The particular day I learned some excruciating news, I was in Walmart. I could not catch my breath. My body was trembling…
“I am determined … to be invincible! Until he has finished his purpose in me.” I was working my way through graduate school when I first heard this song. The song was one of the most powerful I had ever heard. And when I had the privilege of singing backup on this song with the…
Last week, I spoke at a conference called “Becoming Fearless.” I have spoken at this conference for many years, and about six months in advance they always send me the title of what they want my talk to be about. This year it was “How to Overcome Fear.” My first words when I stepped up to the…
Generosity has side effects! We are most accustomed to hearing the words “side effects” used in relation to medications, and the “bad things” that might happen. But generosity has amazingly wonderful side effects! I am often surprised by what people respond to when they read my blogs. A few weeks ago, I mentioned a little…
Keeping on keepin’ on …. To some this means quitting is not an option. To others it means seeing something through despite distractions or roadblocks. To me it means faithfulness. Exactly what is faithfulness? Some of the dictionary definitions are: • Loyalty • Steady in allegiance or affection • True to…
Is there really such a thing? Absolutely there is! And there is much research to substantiate it. What is it? FOCUS! What is focus? It has been defined as: “The ability to set one’s mind and attention on a particular course until it yields the desired results.” Unfortunately, we live in a culture where focus…
Communication. We all know it’s important, or we would not have our electronic rectangle in our hands so much much of the day. Research says we are engaged in some sort of communication 70 to 80% of our daily awake time. And we only spend 55% of that time listening. Worse, research also says we…
Couples often repeat that catchy phrase in my office. Most people don’t know to call it “incongruence.” But in relationships (of all kinds) it’s a problem. It’s particularly a problem in marriages or in “significant other” relationships. Both partners are impacted, both the partner being incongruent, and the partner experiencing it. In this context, “incongruent”…