“I knew I resented my ex-wife and all she did to me and our family. But I had no idea I was punishing my current wife, and my children (and my brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, neighbors, church friends for that matter!) with it! I really had no idea!” I like to define resentment as a…
“I had no idea that I had all of this ‘stuff’ mentally and spiritually onboard… fueling my BLEEP! But all I can say is … life is better for me, our marriage, and our kids…now that I have unloaded the fuel tank of bitterness. And. I can assure you that it was overflowing!” Last week,…
“Isn’t there a pill for BLEEP? We are working on all of this, and at least he understands that this is killing me through stress hormones. But a BLEEP pill would save my life!” my client cried out desperately. The past couple of weeks, I’ve been writing about BLEEP. What is BLEEP? Well, since most…
“Well, we’re pretty sure that what you wrote about ‘BLEEP’ last week was about us. And we’re trying all the stuff you said, but he still wants to explain and excuse himself after he unloads his ‘BLEEP’ on me!” I had to laugh as I informed them: “Well, about 90% of the couples that I…
“My wife says this is not rocket science, but I am an electrical engineer, and it’s rocket science to me!” my client proclaimed. Curiously, I waited. “Surely you know what I’m talking about. This thing where you say, ‘If anger walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, … it’s BLEEP (or whatever you…
“I heard a preacher say one time that’s an invitation for trials and tribulations. So, I certainly don’t want to pray for any patience. But my husband said I’m in desperate need of some!” I had to laugh when my client came in with that one on their lips…and in her heart. Patience. It’s something…
“I can’t say anything right or do anything right so why should I even work on this marriage?” my client began as he plopped into the chair. It’s amazing how many times I hear this every week. Even as little as 25 years ago, there were almost always major attempts for reconciliation between arguments or disagreements,…
“Just about the time I think I’ve settled into my current job…and my life … these crazy thoughts and dreams about what I’d love to do pop up again. I don’t understand why I can’t just settle in and be content?” My client had done extensive work in resurrecting her Champion within. Yet I understood…
“Yeah … I’m just livin’ the dream!” This, all too often, is a repeated punch-clock phrase allocated to the emotional-negative-pile, which is almost … NO! … it IS … our national ‘9 to 5’ stuck on the hamster wheel joke-line at work. Like many of my clients, he was stuck in doubt and insecurity at…
“It’s been a rough road for us, so we decided to call it quits after over 20 years of marriage. But since we’ve been apart, we both have come to realize how much better our lives are together. Now, what do we do?” My client was truly distressed. And although I totally understood the distress,…