“All I ever wanted my entire life was unconditional love. I reached out to a mentor from church, in tears about his most recent departure, and my mentor said: “Unconditional, love does not exist! And you need to get help for your codependency!” After listening carefully to her lifelong dream of being loved, a long-term…
“You struck a nerve when you spoke about remorse in our session last week. It went through me like a shockwave!” Last week I wrote about the couple who came to build their ego strength together, and shortly after, the husband returned to talk about remorse. He called it a shockwave. It must’ve hit a…
How A Champion Builds Ego Strength “There is absolutely no way that I’m going to let him come and have you help him build his ego strength when he’s beaten mine to a pulp! So we’re doing it together!” Last week I shared about the man whose wife had told him that he had an…
“I am so confused! My wife tells me, that I’ve got an ego bigger than Dallas, like. Then today she told me my ego strength is below ground zero … and the two needed to flip-flop! WTH?!” I had to laugh, because the way people throw around the word “ego” in pop psychology is indeed…
“My life is good. My marriage is good. Our kids are good. Our finances are good.” Then she looked at me sheepishly as she continued. “Is it just arrogant to show up here and say everything’s good? But then say that I’m really longing for it to be great?” Ahhhhhh …yes…I mused! The kind of…
(Countless people have come to see me, most with a bit of a nervous, skeptical, doubting kind of attitude. There’s no matter-of-fact soul scan or blood test for a broken heart, where after looking at all the results we can point and say… “Look! There’s the problem!” I get that. Yet in a moment, I…
(Before we jump in, I’d like to share a heart with you for a moment. I wasn’t born this eternal optimist I’ve grown to become personally or professionally. I too had to dig to revive and resurrect the childlike wonder meant to Champion my life and my dreams. Like I encourage you to do,…
“I’m sick and tired of you trying to control me,” The hubby snapped soon after he cannonballed into my chair-ouch…my chair! I thought. “He/she/they have no idea…none, about how I’ve got this!” I took my seat too…and mused… and let the lines they surely rehearsed often wind down to their final acts/final scenes. She retorted…
“Could you have possibly poured any more salt in the wounds of our near-death marriage? My wife had already been hounding me about putting some action behind my words, and then you gave her just a little more fuel for the fire in our marriage that’s already about to burn to the ground.” I waited…
“You’re a high stepper, and I’m not. So, it’s easy for you to do this power word thing, and the proclamation stuff, and all those goals…” For a moment, I wasn’t sure whether to jack smack him or laugh. I was working with two very difficult people in my IOP (intense outpatient program). I knew…